Dementia can affect a parent’s memory, thinking, and language abilities. With the progression of symptoms, a parent may need help with everyday tasks or comprehensive memory care.
Dementia symptoms can make it harder for adult children to communicate with a parent. However, there are practical communication strategies that adult children can use to enhance their interactions and provide compassionate care, such as:
- Empathy
- Verbal communication tips
- Non-verbal communication tips
- Dealing with difficult conversations
- Validation and active listening
- Respond with compassion
What Is Dementia?
Dementia is a broad term that describes several conditions that affect cognitive function, memory, and reasoning. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type, and other types of dementia include vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, and frontotemporal dementia. With each type, individuals experience a decline in their ability to communicate.
Communication Difficulties in Dementia
One challenge in dementia care is dealing with communication barriers. Dementia symptoms can include difficulty finding the right words, repeating oneself, confusion or forgetfulness about recent events, and even changes in personality or mood.
How to Talk to a Parent with Dementia
Communication difficulties can lead to misunderstandings and emotional strain for both adult children and their parent. Awareness of these challenges can help approach each conversation with effective communication strategies.
The Role of Empathy
Empathy is crucial in communicating with a parent with cognitive decline. It involves putting yourself in their shoes and understanding their perspective. By showing empathy, you can create a more supportive and nurturing environment. Remember, it’s not just about the words; your tone, body language, and facial expressions also play a significant role when communicating.
Verbal Communication Tips
When speaking to a parent, keep your sentences short and clear. Avoid using complex language or giving too much information at once. Speak slowly and calmly, and allow extra time for your parent to process what you’ve said. Repeat or rephrase your message and use names and familiar terms to aid understanding.
Non-Verbal Communication Techniques
Non-verbal cues such as gestures, eye contact, and touch can be powerful tools in communication. A gentle touch on the hand, a reassuring smile, or a nod can convey warmth and understanding. Make sure your body language is open and relaxed, and try to minimize background noise to help a parent focus on your presence.
Dealing with Difficult Conversations
Discussing sensitive subjects with a parent who has dementia requires sensitivity and respect. Avoid arguing or trying to convince them of something they don’t remember. Instead, focus on preserving their dignity and acknowledging their feelings.
If a conversation becomes difficult or distressing, it can be helpful to redirect it. Redirecting involves steering the discussion towards a topic that is more pleasant or easier for them to engage with.
It’s natural to feel a range of emotions when caring for a loved one. When emotions run high, take a deep breath and remain calm. Remember that their reactions are often a result of confusion and fear. Offer reassurance and validate their feelings to help them feel understood.
Validation & Active Listening
Validation is when you acknowledge another’s feelings and experiences without judgment. Validation can provide a sense of safety and acceptance for a parent and involves recognizing their emotions, even if they aren’t reality, and responding with kindness and empathy.
Active listening means focusing on what a parent says, without interrupting or rushing them. Show that you’re listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and echoing their words or sentiments to help build trust and encourage open communication.
Respond with Compassion
Responding with compassion involves being present and engaged in the conversation. Use encouraging words like “I understand” or “That sounds important to you.” Avoid dismissing or correcting their memories, as this can cause distress. Instead, consider ways to support their current reality and emotions.
Practical Tools & Technologies
Technology can be a valuable ally in communication. Tools like voice-activated assistants, communication apps, and digital photo frames can help bridge communication gaps. These can remind a parent of important dates, play their favorite music, or display cherished memories to spark conversations.
Consider using communication aids such as picture boards or memory books. These visual tools can help them express themselves and recall memories. Personalized aids that include photographs, names, and familiar symbols can also stimulate conversation.
Self-Care for a Caregiver with a Parent with Dementia
Caring for a parent with memory issues can be emotionally and physically demanding. Family caregivers also need to prioritize self-care to maintain their well-being. Taking time for yourself allows you to recharge and continue providing compassionate care.
Caregivers can incorporate self-care practices into their routine, such as regular exercise, meditation, or hobbies that bring them joy. Caregivers can also connect with friends and family for support and seek professional help if needed.
Memory care communities and respite care services can offer dementia care and a break from caregiving responsibilities. Caregivers aren’t alone in this journey, and seeking support allows them to recharge and continue providing compassionate care for a loved one.
Personalized Memory Care
Communicating with a parent with dementia requires patience, understanding, and compassion. Empathetic communication strategies and technology can enhance interactions and maintain a meaningful connection.
Contact The Grande at Laumeier Park to learn about personalized memory care suited to the needs and preferences of a loved one with dementia.
